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"95 Things Every Man Should Know
Before He Is Thirty-Five"
by Derrick Watkins
Have you ever wondered about what a man should know? This book will attempt to answer those questions. It contains daily reminders for anyone who is looking for a man or anyone who is trying to become one!
This book is a daily reminder that there are certain qualities that define a man who is positive, has integrity and character. Read a passage each day! Meditate on that passage and find a way to include it in your life. Remember, no change is complete when you focus on defeat!
Enjoy the Journey!
Nothing in life is worth anything, if you don't know
how to be proud of yourself.
— Anonymous
- How to change a woman's mind after it's been made up.
Men often feel that they can get whatever they want from a woman. Not true! In order to change a woman's mind, the man must show her that it is in her best interest to think differently in order to move on.
- How to slow dance.
Slow dancing is a skill and should be done gracefully.
- What he wants out of life and how to go after it.
This is very important! Here are three tips!
1. Know what you want.
2. What steps you have to take to get it?
3.Don't let anyone or anything stop you.
- Basic automobile and plumbing repair.
Changing a tire, oil, a handle on a toilet, which are all basic repair skills. Remember if he can't do it, maybe you should find someone who can?
- When to get his prostate checked.
I got my prostate checked when I was 36 years old. It was not the most pleasant experience but it was worth it. Doctors say you should get your prostate checked after or around forty, so do it!
- The difference between wisdom and knowledge.
Wisdom is the art of knowing what to overlook. Knowledge is power only if a man knows what not to bother with.
If a man hasn't discovered something he will die for, he isn't fit to live.
— Martin Luther King
- How to braid a little girl's hair.
If you don't know how, get a doll and practice!
- The difference between confidence and arrogance.
There is nothing wrong with being confident as long as you don't impose or hurt anyone. Arrogance is dangerous when you impose your gift on someone when they are not interested.
- How to find a job and be happy with it.
Finding a job is not hard these days. However, learning how to be happy with that job can be difficult. Make sure that the job you have selected is the one God wants you to have.
- The power of emotional security.
Each man has a motor inside of him that powers who he is. Never let your emotions get you fired from a job or divorced from the one you love.
- The power of the language of love.
Don't take "I love you" for granted. Use it to build a solid foundation with the one you care about.
- The power of a spiritual connection with God.
Meditating on a higher power gives you the strength to go on when all is lost. Take a chance! All life is a chance.
The man who goes farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare!
—Ralph Waldo Emerson
- The power of foreplay.
Talking softly and sexy in a woman's ear, rubbing her thighs and breast and kissing her neck can enhance a romantic and sexual experience.
- How to maintain his personal appearance and look great at the same
time.
A hair cut at least once a week, manicure and managing your breath can do wonders for a man's appearance.
- How to smile while talking on the phone.
Smiling while talking on the phone removes anxiety from the experience. In addition, try to stand up while talking and smiling on the phone and notice the difference if you were sitting.
- How to maintain good credit.
As a man, good credit can assure you of getting a mortgage, car and other essential items. But remember, good credit is established by paying your bills. So, be responsible!
- How to keep his word.
Your word is your bond. If you make a promise, keep it!
- How to openly cry when hurt.
Some say that crying is a sign of weakness. Crying publicly or privately indicates sensitivity. Some woman like a sensitive man and some don't.
Well done is better than well said!
— Benjamin Franklin
- How to listen to his woman and watch television at the same time.
This is a skill! A woman when pressed with a sense of urgency will confront a man anywhere and at anytime. If you are watching television and she wants to talk, ask her to wait for the commercial and advise her to make it quick. The commercial only lasts 20-30 seconds!
- How to sew a button on a shirt.
A basic skill that you will need if you are late for work or a date.
- How to disagree without being disagreeable.
You don't have to agree with everything. However, do your best to listen to the other person's point of view.
- How to be gentle and a gentleman.
The words please, excuse me and I'm sorry are just a few words that show a man's mature side. So, use them!
- How not to be threatened by a woman's independence.
It's about time that all men accept the fact that there are some women that don't need a man to take care of them. The best thing to do is to allow her to be herself. This will take a lot of pressure off you.
A life is as important as the impact it has on other lives.
—Jackie Robinson
- How to care for his injured back.
Most doctors agree that lying in bed can take painful pressure off your spine. Spending two days between the sheets for most people is enough.
- How to recognize an opportunity when he sees it.
Opportunities come frequently. If you have a dream, many opportunities will appear to help you achieve it. So, keep your eyes, ears and heart open!
- How to put on a condom.
When putting on a condom, make sure the tip is pointing up toward the ceiling. In addition, it would help to keep your eyes open too.
- The difference between pain and pleasure.
Pain and pleasure are the two drives that motivate us. People move away from pain and toward pleasure. Be sure you know the difference.
- How and when to be assertive.
Assertiveness is a learned behavior. If you are concerned about the other persons opinion and feelings, you are being assertive. If you are not, that's aggression.
Do things in such away that people can see that you are honest clear through
—Romans 12:17
- How to read a restaurant menu.
Menus are maps. They are not the food. Take your time when reading one. Also, know the difference between the appetizers and the main course.
- The importance of staying physically fit.
In order to live a long and prosperous life, staying in shape is mandatory. Stop living to eat and eat to live!
- How to program a hotel alarm clock.
This can be an experience. When all else fails, bring a portable alarm clock or ask for a wake-up call.
- How to give a compliment to a woman at a bus stop.
If you see an attractive woman at a bus stop, smile and say "hello, my name is__________. If she doesn't answer, say, "It was almost nice to meet you," and let it go!
- How to maintain a clear vision, purpose and direction for your
life.
Stay focused. Men, as we demonstrate that we have something to offer a fair and impartial society, the more hope there is for our children.
The more of life you master, the less of life the less you fear.
— Anonymous
- How to work for a female boss.
Men, more women are becoming presidents and CEO's of companies. You have a good chance of working for one. Be respectful and most of all show humbleness.
- How to keep his word to his woman.
This is not as hard as it seems. Just make sure that if you can't keep your word, say so.
- The power of being a good listener.
This requires that you let go of the need to be heard at the same time the other person is talking. If you are eager to respond to a statement while someone is talking, take a deep breath. This will allow you to calm yourself.
- How to budget his money.
Live within your means. If you cannot afford that new suit now, don't buy it until you can.
- The difference between a father and a daddy.
Fathers take care of their children if they are with the mother of the child or not. Daddies just help with the reproduction.
- How to apologize even if he feels he is right.
In order to move on from an argument with someone, be the first to apologize. This takes super strength of character. Be more concerned about the future than hanging on to past feelings.
If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with success unexpectedly in uncommon hours.
— Henry David Thoreau
- How to give a toast at a wedding.
If you ever have the pleasure of giving a toast, make sure that you are not to drunk to not do it!
- How and when to admit when he is lost.
This is a hard thing for a man to admit. If you admit to your woman that you are lost, you can avoid hearing, "Men always think they know where they are going!"
- The power of a strong and supportive woman.
This is a special person. If you have a strong and supportive woman, hold on to her before another man benefits from your loss.
- What is his woman's ideal weight?
If you want a woman who weighs a certain amount, be patient. You will find her. Because if you are dating someone who does fit your criteria for "the ideal weight," you will someday say something insensitive.
- How to iron a dress.
Women love men who can iron. Especially if he can iron her clothes.
Act quickly and think slowly
— Greek Proverb
- How to be respectful and courteous to his woman's mother.
Her mother is special to her. You don't have to like her, so be respectful and courteous.
- How and when to clean the bathroom.
The bathroom should be cleaned regularly and use soap please!
- When he is ready to be a father.
Fatherhood is a very responsible position. If you are not ready, use a condom.
- When he has met Ms. Right.
Marry the one woman who loves you, not the one you love.
- Where to get gas and a prescription filled three o'clock in the
morning.
Depending on where you live, gas stations are normally open 24hrs a day and drug stores now have drive thru windows. Make sure you know where they are located.
- How to drink without getting drunk.
Drink in moderation if you must drink at all. Also, never drink on an empty stomach.
Before everything else, getting ready is the secret of success.
— Henry Ford
- How to be gracious in victory and defeat.
Victory is sweet but defeat is sweeter because this is feedback on what not to do next time.
- How to open a bottle of champagne.
Use a corkscrew, not your teeth.
- How to start and maintain a conversation.
1. Make eye contact.
2. Smile.
3. Have an open posture.
4. Say hello and your name.
5. Then, talk about things that are associated with where you are at or what is going on.
- How to be motivated anytime.
Here is the secret: Keep your dreams a secret from the people who enjoy destroying them.
- How to work for a female boss who is attractive.
Working for a female boss is difficult enough, but working for one that is attractive is extremely hard. Remember this formula: B.A.B.
B: Be
A: About
B: Business
All my life I wanted to be somebody, only to find out that I am.
— Unknown
- How to handle a woman who makes more money than him.
If you can find one, "forget your pride and enjoy the ride!"
- The difference between a job and his work?
A job is something you do because you have too. Work is something you love to do and they pay you to do it.
- How to prepare one good meal.
If you can cook one good meal, this will give you the confidence to cook two!
- The difference between junk food and healthy food.
Vegetables, fruit and grain are healthy food. Everything else is junk food.
- How to budget his time around his children and work.
Every man needs to value the time he spends with his child and monitor the time he spends at work.
- How to talk to a woman in a loud social club.
This is not difficult for the man who can read body language.
Man is the only creature that refuses to be what he is.
— Unknown
- What to do when he gets locked up?
My mother use to say, "If you get locked up, you are on your own!"
- How to dress for an interview.
When you don't have a suit, a white shirt, tie and dark slacks and shoes will do.
- When to be honest, hopeful and helpful when his mate needs him.
Honesty requires being direct and open. Hopeful requires you to believe in the "us" not the "I" model. Helpful requires being there when she needs you.
- When to go for a physical exam.
Men don't do this enough. One time a year is all that is required.
- How to propose marriage to a woman.
Make sure you are ready. Take her to a place where you can be alone. Get on one knee and ask her to marry you. (The old fashioned way is still the best way.)
- How to ask for a raise.
Before you ask for a raise, make sure that your work up to this point qualifies you to ask.
Man is the only animal that drinks when he is not thirsty and eats when he is not hungry.
— Anonymous
- How to turn on a computer.
Most computers only require that you push a button. Make sure you know which one to push.
- The importance of teaching his child how to tie his/her own shoes.
Be patient and make it fun.
- The importance of serving others.
In order to get you must give and keep giving until you get.
- The importance of having a positive self-image.
How you feel about yourself inside will show up outside. Read, listen and be around positive people.
- How to inspire others.
Start by having something nice to say.
- The value of having your own checking account.
Now, to get a checking account all you need is one-hundred dollars to open it.
- How to go after purpose not money.
Go after purpose and the money will soon arrive.
- How to be independent of the opinion of others.
What do you stand for? People will draw conclusions about you anyway. So don't worry, stay focused!
- The importance of reading five books a year.
We live in a society where things are always changing. Read, read!
- Where to go if he has a drug problem.
Seeking treatment for a drug problem requires that a man first admit that he has a problem.
- What to do when he locks his keys in his car.
Many men have experienced this before. Just remember to exhaust every possibility before you break the window.
- How to handle difficult coworkers.
Conflicts with coworkers can be solved quickly if each person takes responsibility for their role in the conflict.
- The importance of making a list of things he wants to accomplish
in the next five years.
Where do you want to be in the next five years? Write it down and read this list daily.
- The difference between love and lust.
Love is eternal, deep and consistent. Lust is temporary and doesn't last.
A man likes to feel that he is loved; a woman likes to be told.
— Anonymous
- How to remain patient while his woman shops for shoes.
Remember to bring a magazine, Walkman or let her go by herself.
- The importance of a self-help group if he has an addiction.
Attending AA, NA and GA are important if a man is to recover from an addiction.
- How to change a diaper.
Diapers are now disposable. Each end of a diaper has a self-adhesive strip. The hardest thing you have to do is not to put it on backwards.
- How to shop for his woman.
It is a good idea to pay attention to what your lady buys for herself.
- The importance of remembering her birthday.
Mark this day on your calendar and ask someone to remind you if necessary.
- How to play chess.
You can learn this game by purchasing a chess computer or have someone teach you. Make sure that person has the patience.
- When to write his will.
The best time to consider writing your will is now!
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
—Robert Frost.
- When to move out of his mother's house.
If you can purchase a car—a luxury car— you can rent an apartment.
- How to give a speech.
This is easy as long as you are prepared and can control the thought of sounding stupid.
- What do McDonald's; Wendy's and Burger King have in common?
They all use the colors red and yellow to advertise their fast food restaurants.
- When to pull over after driving all night.
If you are yawning and having a difficult time keeping your eyes open, that's a sign to rest for a while.
- The importance of helping his child with his homework.
Before you do this, make sure that you can read and understand the assignment.
- How to play word games.
All you have to do is read the directions and be willing to lose some games.
Love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction.
— Unknown
- The value of taking his child to school.
This has a remarkable affect on your child's attitude and builds their self-esteem.